Getting Back With An Ex

Getting back with an ex.  It can be all consuming.  It can be devastating.  The emotions are powerful.  The risks are inherent.  Is it really worth it?  Might it just be wiser, or easier to move on?

Begin by examining your true feelings.  Is getting back with your ex motivated by the right reasons?  Or are your emotions driven by jealousy or revenge?  Are you seeking a sense of security, or have you found your genuine life partner, your soul mate?

You must be honest and truthful with yourself.  If you are motivated for the wrong reasons, let go.  If you are motivated by true and unselfish love, you must act now. 

Getting back with an ex is possible.  But it must be based on honesty and on the premise that if you lose, you will have to live with the consequences.  Accept that you might have to face rejection.  Can you handle that?  Be honest.

Allow the strength of your love to guide you.  If your love is strong enough, and if the reasons to get back together are honest, then it is time for you to meet the challenge.

You must have a plan, and that plan must begin immediately.

1. Resolve that you will be the partner to take action.  Take responsibility.  You've already dealt with your fears, now is the time to take meaningful action.

2. Don't resort to gimmicks or tricks.  That means not lying or scheming, or  manipulating.  Those tricks might work in the short term, but they will fail you   in the end.  You want a relationship that is based on trust, not deception. Your goal must be to work towards a long term road for success - a future together.

3. Make contact with your ex.  Too many relationships fail because neither   partner is willing to reach out to the other.  Make your contacts brief at first, and by phone, but also make them regular.  But above all, move quickly.  Your failure to act immediately could cost you your relationship.

4. Do not make yourself "too available".  You need to assert some independence in the beginning.

5. Eventually you will want to meet with your ex.  Make it casual, and make it brief.  Be genuine, honest, and caring.  Do not dwell on the past.  Be positive about the future.  Communicate honestly.  Listen more than you speak.

Getting back with an ex is not as impossible as it might seem if your motivations are honest and open.