Most couples break up for reasons that developed over time. Rarely is a relationship breakup the result of one single event. If getting back together is what you really want, it's definitely not a good idea to dwell on the mistakes of the past. In fact, this could be completely self-defeating to getting back together.
Learn from the past. Rather than digging into the raw emotions that led to the breakup, focus on breaking away from those emotions and look to the future.
Unfortunately most people do focus on the past when trying to get back together. They do in it several ways. First of all, it is not necessary to obsess over what went wrong in the past. We already know what went wrong! Overemphasizing what went wrong before can actually prevent us from taking positive steps toward the future. If you truly want to get back together, learn from the past, and resolve not to make the same mistakes again. Instead, focus on how the two of you can get back together.
The reality is, it really doesn't matter why you broke up. What does matter is if the two of you can grow from the experiences of the past and move forward with the future. All couples suffer setbacks. Those that succeed step forward and take positive efforts to save their relationship.
If your relationship was meant to be, you owe it to yourself to do everything in your power to revive that relationship. While you may regret what happened in the past, recognize that there is no greater sense of regret than never knowing what might have been had you tried.
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