A Lasting Relationship Can Be Yours

Couples who can deal with relationship issues during their most difficult times can look forward to transforming a troubled relationship into a lasting relationship.  Relationship issues seem far less threatening during the good times.  A couple who can survive during the rough times, when conflict takes over, has a far better chance of transforming a troubled relationship into a lasting relationship.

Relationships are founded on responsibility and respect.  Combined, those values develop into emotional maturity.  And with a sense of emotional maturity and the proper attitude couples can look forward to restoring those times when life was far less complicated.

But a troubled relationship thrives on complications, on anger and on conflict.  And these relationship issues can be summed up in a few simple questions.

"Is winning so essential that I am prepared to end the relationship because of it?"

"Am I prepared to win this fight at any price?"

"Is it possible that I can put this conflict behind me and look forward to the future?"

Couples must never allow relationship issues to destroy their love.  Begin the healing process by following these important principles for your relationship revival.

1. Avoid unnecessary arguments.  Take a strong position only on those relationship issues that are vital.  Focus instead on compromise and respect.  A couple who can accept these principles will enjoy a lasting relationship.

2. Stop the blame.  Things can get rough every day.  But it's not your partner's fault.  Instead of placing blame – communicate.  Fair and open communication enhances consideration and concern, and allows a couple to benefit each other.

3. Listen to one another.  To listen is to respect, to accept and appreciate each other's position.  If we cannot listen, we cannot solve the problems that confront us.

4. Keep it in the present.  It is nearly impossible to solve current problems when we remain focused on the resentment of the past.  Resentment is based on blame.  Instead, avoid placing blame and concentrate on solving what is happening now.

5. Let things go.  Unfortunately, some problems are just beyond resolution.  In those instances, it is vital that couples must agree to disagree and move on.  Even in a case where your partner will not accept compromise, you must lead by example.  This approach is far more important than allowing one single problem to power a relationship breakup.

6. Forgiveness.  Love cannot survive without forgiveness.  Only through forgiveness can we release the chains of resentment and the need to get even.  No doubt, the most formidable enemy to any relationship is the choice to accept resentment over forgiveness.

7. Your relationship must be primary.  Particularly when times are tough, it is extremely important that couples must work together to resolve problems.  Lasting relationships are built on a couple's ability to respect one another, and to stop viewing each other as adversaries.  When a couple dedicates time and effort to their relationship, most all relationship issues can be solved.