A balanced relationship exists when a couple successfully blends togetherness with independence. Simply put, balance in a relationship means committing to a partner, committing as a partner, and committing to one's own individual needs.
Commitment is not a score card. It is not about measuring who gives more to the relationship. Commitment, and ultimately balance in a relationship, is achieved when the relationship is meeting both shared needs and individual needs.
A relationship is only as strong as the sum of its partners. When a couple sacrifices their unique identities in favor of total togetherness, the relationship will weaken and eventually fail. While everyone longs for the intimate bonds of a meaningful relationship, we must not forget that we have individual needs and individual connections that must be met. If we cannot meet our own needs, how is it possible to meet the needs of a relationship?
None of this is about selfishness. To the contrary, it is about growing and prospering individually and together. Balance in a relationship is, in fact, a reflection of balance in one's life.
Achieving balance means beginning with one's self.
Do you appreciate yourself? Do you respect what you want to accomplish as a person, or do you feel compelled to sacrifice your needs for your partner's?
Are you comfortable enough in your own life to enjoy your partner's individually? Do you respect your partner's needs?
Do you desire that both of you should achieve success both individually and as a pair?
A partner cannot fulfill all needs. A couple must appreciate and respect each other's needs. Balance in a relationship is achieved when a couple respects that individual needs and shared needs are not competitors - they are the perfect blend.
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